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The behaviors and reactions to the addiction of loved ones are very diverse, but there are some common, characteristic features:
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Difficulty distinguishing one's own thoughts and feelings from the thoughts and feelings of the addicted person.
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An internal sense of the need to control the addicted person and their behavior.
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Hiding the addiction of a loved one from family and friends.
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A sense of responsibility and guilt for the drinking, drug use and addictive behavior of the addicted person.
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Difficulty defining one's own needs.
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A sense of anxiety and guilt when someone nearby has a problem or is going through difficulties - inability to accompany it without tension.
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Lack of time to take care of yourself (lack of time for friends and family, neglect of passions or interests).
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Difficulty in making demands on others and difficulty in consistently meeting them.
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A sense of helplessness and powerlessness.
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A strong sense of shame, fear, a sense of injustice.
Co-dependency is not a disease.
It is a set of characteristics and behaviours resulting from improper (inadequate) adaptation to a difficult, long-term and destructive situation, such as the addiction of a loved one. This situation significantly limits the freedom of choice of action, leads to a deterioration of the mental state of the person with co-dependency syndrome and makes it difficult to change one's own situation for the better.
Co-dependency can affect partners, spouses, relatives and friends of people suffering from addiction.
The development of co-dependency is also influenced by family ties, such as having children, as well as dysfunctional childhood patterns, which cause people with co-dependency traits to enter into relationships similar to those observed in childhood.
It doesn't take a lot of strength to hang on. It takes a lot of strength to let go.
J. C. Watts
During the first 2-3 consultations, we will identify your family situation, your problems and adapt further therapeutic procedures to them. We establish individual stages of treatment and their goals. Often, a consultation with a psychiatrist or other doctor may also be necessary.
We might help you
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To become aware of the problem and everyday mechanisms of functioning.
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Crucially, to understand that people with co-dependency syndrome are not responsible for their partner's addiction, and what's more, they have no influence on it. It is important to realize that their behaviours can only support the addiction.
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Working on the relationship with yourself. On regaining self-confidence, building healthy self-esteem and self-worth by learning to recognize and express your feelings and needs.
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Learning to set your own boundaries, take care of yourself and, as a result, start living your own life.
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Via individual therapy, learning how you can support a loved one with an addiction, how to talk to them and motivate them to change.
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To learn effective ways to cope in a relationship with an person suffering from addiction while using other forms of help that will support the process of changes in life in its various areas - webinars, trainings, personal development workshops, psychoeducation and prevention.
The main goal of therapy is:
In addition to individual therapy, we also offer family and group therapy, which you can find in the links:
PSYCHOTHERAPY FOR FAMILIES
5-STEP METHOD INTERVENTION
FAMILY CONNECTIONS.
At CKU you can also take advantage of other forms of support for the personal development process, such as:
If you see the above traits in yourself and would like to help yourself or your loved ones,
come, we'll talk and plan specific steps.
email - info@ckudublin.org
Phone/ WhatsApp: + 353 876 494 555
At the CKU Center, you can also take advantage of other forms of therapy and personal development.